Who are victims of rape and sexual offenses?

A victim can be anyone. More than just a stereotypical image of a weak woman who's "asking for it." It can be a woman, or a man. A child, or an elderly person. Literally, anybody can be a victim. But for this entry, lets focus on the victim being a man in college. The story I'm about to tell will be from the perspective of the victim.

STORY:

So I'm a sophomore in college, and I'm going to a party in my buddy's dorm room. Now one of his roommates is a creeper, but he's also 21, and its not always easy to find a source for alcohol.

But this one night, there's beer pong going on, and this really big, really fat girl is on one team with the creeper, and a couple guys were on the other team. Guess what? Girl's team gets completely shut out. So guess what else? That means one of them has to do a naked lap outside, and the other has to chug 7-10 shots. Creeper does the lap, she opts to attempt to take the shots. She gets about 6 down, and she had already been completely blitzed before these extra shots. So she's near passing out, and the party has worn down, so its just me, one of my buddies, this girl, and the creeper. So I decide I need to get this girl home, otherwise, she'd probably get raped by the creeper. I ask my buddy to help me get her back, but he declines, so now I'm about to go attempt to get her from DMC to Whiteford.

We head out, and conveniently, its past midnight, so we can't take the shortcut through Decker. This entire time, I'm just hoping to run into Campus Safety so they can take her off my hands and I can leave. No such luck. So I get her back to Whiteford, and the R.A. on duty isn't there. I'm convinced there isn't actually an R.A. on duty in Whiteford. Ever. I've never seen them at their post. Go figure. And this girl is ready to completely pass out in hall, but that wouldn't be much better than leaving her with the creeper, so I ask her where her room is. Third floor. Oh great, lucky me, I get to drag her drunk ass up there. On the staircase, I passed a different one of my buddies, so I ask him for help. He declines, because he's heading over to his girlfriend's room. Well, I can't blame him for that, he's only human. So I lug her up to her room, get her onto her bed, and figure "hey, I get to leave now, right?"

Wrong.

The girl can't stand up straight, can't talk straight, but as I turn to leave, she reaches out and grabs me by the balls and pulls me to her bed. And when anything is tugging there, you go where the force pulls. Now I'm pretty drunk too, and she's a big girl, so she pins me down. Her breath reeks of booze, and she keeps making this kissy face at me like she wants to make out. No thanks. She doesn't seem to get it, so she decides to push my nose, and then touch hers and make a kissing sound. I shake my head and say no. Too bad, she wants to, and she's got me pinned. It's awful, and it gets worse, but I'm going to spare you the details. And did I mention, I don't even know this girl's name? She's got me pinned, forcing me to make out with her, and telling me we're going to have sex. I don't want to, no thank you, not gonna happen. But it seems like I'm not going to get a choice. Holy crap, I'm a guy that's about to get raped. In all seriousness.

So at this point I'm desperate. I'm making up excuses. "Um, I have an early class." "I need to write a paper." "I'm going to go throw up?" No, she rejects all of them. Finally, a stroke of brilliance strikes me.

"Oh shit, is that your roommate I hear in the hall?"

That startles her, and she drunkenly falls off the bed. I'm free, so I bolt out the door, and rush back to my own dorm. My jackass friends are there and they've placed a bet on whether I was gonna sleep with her or not. Yeah, Alex lost $10 on that one. And you know what? Now I understand what it's like to be the victim of a sexual offense, and I got off lucky all things considered. It's terrible not to have a choice in the matter, and its something we should all be aware of.